Oh isn't liking someone trouble enough? But imagine liking someone who is moving far far away from you in just a few short months. What the hell are you supposed to do...
Welcome to my situation. Oh how I hate it! I mean it's been just over 2 weeks so I'm really not planning to marry this guy or anything, but there is definitely a connection there which rarely comes around for me. So that got me thinking, how bad would it be if I was really in deep? And what would I do about it?
After a lot of thinking and googling, I came up with some pretty different choices those in that situation would have and my plan for this post is to make you feel better about whatever decision you decide whether it be: end it (the dreaded break-up speech at the ready), go for a long-distance relationship, move with them or make them stay.
Ending it with someone is never easy, but sometimes it's for the best if all that will come out of it is heartache. I've been in a long-term relationship before that seemed as though it was impossible to come out of, he was basically my first real relationship and we "loved each other". In the end, the heartache and torture overtook the good and it was time for something new. I think that may have been one of the best decisions I made because the summer after was crazyyyyy and so much fun! All I'm trying to say is, change is so hard on a relationship and sometimes it's okay if it doesn't work out, neither of you are to blame.
The time old story of long-distance... Couple are happy, one moves away, they stay together, they fight, they break up. That scenario is drilled into our heads from when we start to date! "It will never work" "how do you find time for one another" "I give it two months". How are we supposed to have a functioning relationship with people bullying us with these questions? We can't, and that is something our society needs to man up and change! However, in my opinion, long-distance can work. I once read a blog about a long-distance couple. They would both post about their relationship and how they would make it work even though they were miles apart. It was a truly inspirational read and I have now found out that they are engaged and have been living together (YES!) for a while. If you are dedicated to your relationship and want it to make it work, it will.
Moving with them is one hell of a big step! If you're a new couple, I think this rarely works, but I am always an enthusiast about people making what seems impossible work! So, prove me wrong.
I always think making them stay seems so selfish, but sometimes in love and relationships you have to be! You have, family, friends and commitments too, why should it be you who has to sacrifice moving. These are very important discussions to have with your partner if this is something you are considering.
If you're in a long-distance relationship or you're having these kinds of troubles, please leave a comment I'd love to talk to you!
Libs xo
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